Help

We can offer help in many ways from providing information needed by new members of our community to transportation to and from Mass, through to those who may be troubled or are just looking for answers.

Are new to the area and would like to join a parish? - Please click here

If you are lonely, then you would be welcome at our Good Companions luncheon club specifically for those who are alone - click here for more information

If you are looking for meaning and maybe faith in your life or to return to the church - click here.

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If you are still reading this, then you may be feeling:-

• A sense of inner emptiness and sadness
• Loss or losing interest in life, self care, dress code, etc.
• Loss of appetite, or overeating; lack of humour; being told that you're feeling sorry for yourself and "snap out of it".
• Little or low sex drive
• Considering ending your life and making plans to do so.

• I feel that I want to say something in company but feel too shy or lack confidence
• I feel that basically I am weird or a misfit
• My social; life revolves around fantasy rather than reality (ie: next year I'll plan a holiday to Asia but I know in my heart that I never will do it)
• Life is mostly boring
• Most of my enjoyment comes through watching TV, playing computer games, or surfing the net.
• Most people make too much of a big deal about their problems.

• Are or think you are an alcoholic, drug addict, sex addict, cyber addict, gambling addict, or just an addict?
• Do you partake in any of the above on a daily basis?
• Can you stop abruptly without a sense of preoccupation or signs of withdrawal?
• Do you feel that the abuse of part of your activity is mostly a secret and you would not like anyone to know the full extent of your problem? (If they did know, would you most likely have feelings of guilt, shame or remorse?)

• I look forward / I do not look forward to meeting my significant other.
• I am basically bored in my relationship with them.
• If I did not have children I would have gone from the relationship a long time ago.
• Deep down I know there is something wrong with our relationship.
• I am not in love with them but parts of me love them.
• There is someone out there who I may or may not have met that is meant for me.
• You may be surprised to know that the process of the experience of death of a loved one, facing your own death, or divorce are very similar. This is due to the fact that they all have, at their centre,the process of letting go which is painful and very individual.
• Denial; this is not really happening, it must be a mistake.
• Loneliness; I don't mind being alone, it's just the aching feeling that this is for ever.
• Guilt; I could have, I should have, done better, been there more than I was,etc.
• Rejection. I find myself rejecting other people's help and yet knowing that I need it.
• Grief; is a deeply personal pain that is usually felt deep within the soul of each person and no words can be found to express the depth of this pain.
• Anger: This can be with oneself, one's partner, medical staff, the world, God, etc.
• Resentment: This can apply to the normal feeling that life is not the same and will not be the same ever again.
• Forgiveness; this can be a process where a degree of acceptance of one's condition and one's past is put into proportion.
• Acceptance; "I don't like what's happening to me but I accept it".
• Self security; I have a deep sense that despite all that is happening to me, "all shall be well".

• I feel sexually inadequate.
• Most of my friends have better sex lives than I do.
• There is a difference in making love and having sex.
• If I had the confidence and money, I would change some part of my body so that I would look more attractive.
• I do not feel sexually attractive.
• Having had sex with my significant other I find myself going to view sex on the internet later in that night when they are asleep.
• My sexual activity goes against my personal moral code.
   

Sunrise Counselling

We can recommend Sunrise Counselling Services who are a not for profit organisation providing counselling services in Southampton, New Forest and throughout the South East.

There are many definitions of counselling or therapy. Whatever definition you have heard or read of, in our experience it is primarily a relationship of trust, mutual respect, listening, skill and prime time for the client.

Confidentiality is the hall mark of our particular approach and, we are conscious that we have two ears and one mouth and this is something we use very much in our counselling approach.

We do not make any promises that your problems will be solved. We do not have any magic cures or potions. We do, however, have over 20 years experience both in training and in actual practise of counselling.

If you would like to just talk - Click here to contact us

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